Are we pretentious?
I’m going there, and I’m definitely guilty of some of these things. This might be a cultural thing but are we pretentious though? Yes, and yes, some people make me wonder if we are all pretending. I am going to sound very judgemental here, I just can’t help it. For many years, I couldn’t be 100 percent with some people in of my social circles, I was just physically present, not engaged at all. The reason was because these people only celebrated achievements that was solely based on intellect, creativity was not really celebrated, just academic achievements. At the time, it felt unachievable to me. so, I was a quiet observer.
You have to look a certain way. You are noticed when you have something to offer, or when your presentation looks expensive. You hear things like ‘dress how you want to be addressed’, ‘it’s all about packaging’, ‘fake it until you make it’. What happens when you fake it until you’re in overwhelming debt, what happens when you are addressed, and you are clueless, what happens when the package is open and looks nothing like it’s presentation. We need to be more authentic!
I understand the idea behind it, but somehow, we’ve managed to turn it into something negative. I say, be real, honest and always willing to learn. Instead of always trying to prove something to other people, do what works for you and your future. Just don’t think short term, thinks 6 months to 5 years ahead. I believe that I am in a place where I can simply say yes please or no thank you, rather than feeling the need to prove something or impress someone.
If you read my blogs, you’ll know that I am all about building quality memories and having amazing experiences rather than having shiny things. Don’t get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with shiny things, we just have to make sure we have our priorities right.
I am out here trying to be someone who has integrity, I have met many amazing women who have integrity, they know who they are and are definitely not swayed by what they see. When I look closer to see why that is, it becomes clear… they know who they are and what is important. I admire and celebrate that quality because it is becoming rare in this social media age.
I say I was guilty of this because I was constantly in environment were weakness can’t be shown. Until I had my children, most of the people in my previous church didn’t know I had health issues and I was with them for 9 years! It took me leaving, going to another place where the people were open, authentic and honest. Initially, I thought they were weird, but with time I felt safe enough to share my vulnerabilities and that was so liberating. I am saying, let us become more authentic. Put down some of those walls and let people see you!
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