5 Signs that you are stressed

We use the word ‘stress’ loosely but being stressed is serious. We can’t completely avoid stress or stressful situations and environments, but we can minimize it in our day to day life. There are more than 5 signs of stress, but I am only addressing 5, because I have either seen it or experienced it myself. Stress is a silent killer, the root cause of some sicknesses, disease, separation, divorce, anxiety, depression and many more issues. Stress negatively impacts your physical and mental health.

Transferred aggression– you know when you are at work and your boss gets snappy with you for no obvious reason, or when you have a bad day at work and take it out on your partner or children. Yes, everyone has done it. You usually feel terrible after. This is transferred aggression. We bottle things up and with the littlest shake, we explode, and someone innocent might get the brunt of it (usually our loved ones). We must find creative and respectful ways of expressing ourselves, dealing with situations and letting things go if needed. For some people, this might mean forgiving someone that has hurt you, so you can move on.  Like the song from frozen “let it go…”

Moody or negative energy– your mood can literally change the feel of a place, people can sense that something feels off. You can even lose your sense of humour and get easily frustrated. You might actually start to avoid family and friends because of your mood. I recommend that you find a hobby, something that helps you distress. You might also just need a good rest or seek professional help like a counsellor or therapy.

Everything irritates you– things that usually don’t bother you get to you. You get overwhelmed and are easily frustrated. You might become withdrawn or nasty. This is when we might say things that can never be taken back, things that you may or may not mean.

Lack of sleep– one of the symptoms of stress is insomnia. Getting a good night sleep is important, it is recommended that we have 7-9 hours of sleep daily. In reality, that doesn’t always happen. If you are already doing this, well done. You are caring for yourself, physically and mentally. Sleep is important for improving your immune system and it helps to repair your body. It also helps lift your mood. You are more productive with a good night sleep and you will concentrate more. It’s alright to take a nap or have a lie in (whenever possible or make the time). Naps are not just for children, adults need to rejuvenate too.

Low self- esteem -stress is no joke, it can make you anxious and constantly second guess yourself. It can take you to a very dark place, where you might feel that you are not good enough. Well let me tell you… you are plenty!! You are more than enough and asking for help is not weakness but a sign of strength.

It is important to simplify, it helps to reduce stress. We have to look after ourselves, our mental health is very important. It is linked to our physical and spiritual well-being. Major changes such as becoming a new mom, new job, moving house can cause stress and make you question your identity. I hope this helps remind you to look after yourself, make out time to rest or do the things that you enjoy and just breathe. Remember that saying, where there is life, there is hope. So, don’t give up. As usual, don’t forget to tell me what you think or share your experience in the comment section. I enjoy reading them. Also, don’t forget to get my free eBook. Subscribe to my newsletter that way you get an email as soon as I upload a new blog. Follow me on Instagram and Facebook.

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    Ebony Laleye

    You are right the word stress is used loosely. Stress can really affect you mentally physically etc….
    It is important to look after your self,it can be hard to do that as a mum.
    How can one get time to them selves when you are always in demand as a mum?

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      Loveth Okoli

      Hi Ebony, we have to find creative ways for ‘me time’ it is difficult but important. thanks for your contribution.

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    Antbonia

    Thanks Loveth for sharing,
    Stress can really throw people of balance. It is very important like you said, we find a me-time..
    Depending on God rely does helps.
    I try to consciously plan my day, weeks ahead. Things might change, But am flexible in case it does.

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      Loveth Okoli

      Hi, planing is a really good way to reduce stress. I agree, it is also good to be flexible because life is unpredictable.

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    Gladys

    Another beautiful blog 👍 ❤️❤️
    Stressed out or depressed is loosely used to describe how we feel.100% agreed with you that we should take it seriously. I love your advice on looking after your self – “having me time” – this allow you to reflect on your self in your ‘ here and now’.
    If you are struggling talk to a Counsellor or a non-judgemental support network in your life.

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      Loveth Okoli

      Thanks for your continual support, it is important to be present in the moment and to also create time for yourself.

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    Joyce

    Lovely blog as usual. The above tips are 100% true and I believe every one of us can relate to that. As for me I know when I don’t get enough sleep especially after a night shift l become very grumpy and start snapping at my kids and sometimes I tell them the reason for my grumpiness (laugh out loud) but on a serious note one have to look after one self to maintain his/her sanity. Simplicity is the way forward I totally agree on that. Thanks for sharing your ideas. I believe people are encouraged out there including myself. Keep up the good work x

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      Loveth Okoli

      Hi Joyce, thanks for being one 100% honest.I appreciate your support and I am glad that you are encouraged.

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