3 Tips for Parents to Stay Motivated

If there was a mom community, I might have been kicked out already. I refuse to overwork myself all in the name of motherhood. Please don’t get me wrong, it’s a role I take seriously, and I know that I am blessed. I just do things slightly different from anyone else, not because I was that way inclined. After experiencing the roller coaster ride of motherhood, that made me revaluate things and I had to make drastic changes before I crash. I had to find my own way of being the best mother that I could without compromising who I am nor comparing myself with others. I have also applied the same principles to home educating my children. Do I still consider myself as a newbie educator? Absolutely not, am I an expert? No, where does that leave me? I am in a place where I am starting to gain a little bit of confidence, finding my own rhythm and style. I am always willing to learn new and exciting ways of doing things. Home education is unique to each family, so no one can say that you are doing it wrong.

Do not over stretch yourself– I believe as parents we know our children best and we always want the best for them. We might need help to express and implement that. I am always trying to challenge myself, because it is not always easy to stay motivated. It is hard work to not get complacent and just keep going.

One thing I try not to do is over stretch myself, because with home education (and just being a mum in general), it is very easy to do. When I started home educating my children, I got so excited with all the various home ed clubs, groups and activities. I attended everything I could, it was all getting a bit much, I started cutting things down a bit. It is important to start a habit or lifestyle that is sustainable, I don’t want to become overwhelmed, then burn and crash. I knew that I will be taking it a slow in the winter months, that’s what works for our family. The season or weather might not be an issue for some, it might be transport, money or lack of activities or clubs for others.

Only do things when you are ready– I have met so many amazing and inspiring mums, they might be going to work, doing their best to provide the best life for their children, or giving it all up to provide the best life for their children. It is all inspiring to me as neither one of them is easy. I have said to some mums, I am not telling you to stop working to be more involved in your child’s learning, start with 10 minutes a day. Remember all the dreams and things you thought you would do with your child when you first got pregnant? I have loads and I didn’t do most of them. I remember saying I was going to use cloth nappies, never give my kids a pacifier/dummy and I would teach them sign language. Guys let me tell you, I tried cloth nappies and I couldn’t keep you with the washing, remember I had twins. I totally gave them a pacifier for sanity’s sake, they were weaned off before they turned one. Teaching them sign language… well let’s just say that has been postponed. I have got many more examples like that and I am sure that you can relate. I say this to let you know that I am far from perfect, however, I am always willing to try. Only do things when you are ready and make sure that what ever you do, do it for the right reasons. Sanity is a good one, just saying 😊

There is no such thing as perfect parenting– There is no handbook to life, boy, we are all just having a go and hope for the best. I find it super exciting when someone finds or reads something useful in my blog, this is why I am doing this in the first place. I don’t want to come across as prescriptive or an expert but as your friend who loves sharing! Guys, there is no such thing as perfect parenting, it simply does not exist. However, let’s not be discouraged but strive to always do better. Why don’t you share some of your pregnancy dreams you had for your child that didn’t quite turn out as planned, please share in the comment section, I can’t wait to hear. Follow me on Instagram Facebook and here’s is a link to my free eBook.  Also, subscribe to my newsletter that way you’ll get the first glimpse of new blog posts.

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    Gladys

    I thought having my kids, I could carry on with my 9 to 5 job. Unfortunately, with my first child, I had to re-evaluate things after 6weeks, when I discovered he had severe allergies. As a mum, you learn everyday and my life is been redefined by my kids. I am not a perfect mum, I am still learning.

    Love your blog.

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      Loveth Okoli

      Thanks for your contribution. Being a parent is a fascinating journey, we all have to keep learning.

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    Ebony laleye

    This post was so funny 😂, “cloth nappies” 😂
    I thought I would be able to have a baby class everyday with my first son , I could not handle it 😂. It was to much.
    We are really just trying our best as parents.

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      Loveth Okoli

      Hi, yes we are just trying our best and that’s all that we can do. Girl I was just keeping it real, this is what happens when reality hits!

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    Anthonia

    Thanks Loveth for sharing!!!!!

    I’m always learning…
    Before we had our precious boys, i planned taking them to the park at list twice a week, breastfeed them for at list a year.

    Guess what, breastfeeding didn’t even last 6 months hahaha.. I have to listen to my self and my baby, then work out what was best for us… shorting my ears to alot of People saying otherwise…
    What about taking them to park at list twice a week…. Let just say when the weather is conducive, Our Garden takes the place of the park.

    I really enjoyed reading this. Thanks again Loveth

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      Loveth Okoli

      Hi, thanks for sharing your experience. It is good to shut out the noise and listen to yourself sometimes. Well done

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