In Pursuit of Date Night

My perfect date was actually my first date with my husband. At that time, we were both single and we met up in central London and spent the whole day together. By the end of the date, we both decided to go for it and be a couple and we courted. On our first date was a lovely summer’s day in central London. We had a lot of fun doing various activities including watching a movie (the cinema was completely empty because it was a hot summer afternoon), having ice cream and lots of precious experiences and memories.  After that, we pretty much went on dates most weekend as it was a long-distance relationship. I lived in London and he lived in Essex. I had such good and memorable experience dating him, and I still enjoy going on dates with him. At the time of writing this, I have been married for eight years and I am in pursuit of reclaiming date night/day.

I love it when I hear married people say they have weekly date night. Unfortunately, that has not been the case for us. Before we relocated to our current home a few years ago, we maintained a monthly date night routine. Once a month worked well for us, we also had a good babysitter. At present, we have been in our new home for two years and have been on two date nights. I am a big supporter of date night and I am trying to get it to once a month, but it’s not happening right now. We have not found a good and consistent babysitter and when it comes to our children, we have trust issues. We have managed two date nights so far because of my mum’s help. This year, I am going to work hard to make date night happen, even if it means:

  • Begging my trusted friends and family
  • Finding a good and committed babysitter (already started the hunt)
  • Date night deal with friends/family who also do date night. Get them to babysit and when it’s their date we’ll babysit for them.
  • Work on our trust issues

Going on a date with my husband is one of the few times I get to dress up and spend quality and uninterrupted time with him. I don’t think date night is over rated, I see it as an investing in my relationship. Whatever relationship you are looking to nurture, you need to find ways to invest in it. Never give up, I am always going to try and find ways to pursue relationships that I treasure, be it with my husband, children, parents etc.

I am in pursuit of being pursued by my husband. Yes, date night is happening, nice dress, red lips, comfortable shoes (I must keep it real with shoes), lets go. I don’t ever want to get complacent in my marriage, I want to always keep it interesting by investing in it. A couple that laughs together…well, let’s just say it’s a good sign.

Date night doesn’t have to be expensive, however, it can if you want. It can be a romantic walk (so comfortable shoes needed) or a picnic. It can be a recreation of your first or favourite date (I can’t wait to do this), or it can be whatever you want. Tailor it to your budget and make it fun. Whatever you do, enjoy it and spend quality time with your loved ones. Make sure to leave a comment and tell me your experience of how or if you do date night/day. I look forward to hearing it. Follow me on Instagram Facebook and here’s is a link to my free eBook.  Also, subscribe to my newsletter that way you’ll get the first glimpse of new blog posts.

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    Ebony laleye

    It is so funny what you said about the shoes 😂. Your right you have to be comfortable.
    It is hard to go on date nights/day especially when you have kids.
    It is so important to date each other in marriage.

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      Loveth Okoli

      I agree, you have to make an extra effort when you have children. About the shoes, I like being comfortable that way nothing can stop me from having fun. Thanks for your comment and support.

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    Carmen

    This is a great post! I really forget about date night and I need to put more thought into making it happen for my husband and I.

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      Loveth Okoli

      Hi Carmen, thanks for your comment. It is easy to forget date night when life is happening. All the best with making it happen with your husband.

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