Education is mandatory, school isn’t

Just as school isn’t for everyone, home education isn’t either. As a home educator, I hear parents say ‘I can’t do it’ and I reply home schooling is not for everyone. When they discover that I home school my children, I think some parents feel confronted and they go through a quick self-examination. Just because I am telling you what I do, doesn’t mean that I am asking the same of you. I always say that I am not super mom, I just always do the best that I can. It took me two years to finally take the plunge and home school my children because of fear. The unknown scares us and we become defensive. I have had people tell me that if they home school their children, their kids will be missing out. I didn’t respond but just listened. It made me wonder if I have ever made anyone feel bad about taking their children to school, I hope not. Like I say to my daughter, if you have nothing nice or helpful to say, it’s best to be quiet.

The reason I was quiet wasn’t because I didn’t have a good come back, or information on the benefit of home schooling, it was because I knew the person was speaking out of fear of the unknown. Although it came out insensitively, it wasn’t meant like that. As a newbie home educator, I have and keep hearing things that can be discouraging and scary, but I am learning to constantly block them and focus on what I am doing and why I am doing it. This is part of our lifestyle for now, so I refuse to let other peoples fears cloud my vision and dreams.

I also have some people who genuinely support and respect my decision and never make me feel weird about it. As well as those who are genuinely curious and open minded, I enjoy talking and sharing my experiences with them.

I respect whatever method a parent chooses to educate their child/children because we are always trying to do the best for our children and we should all support and encourage each other. I have always been open minded, I enjoy learning and seeking new ways to live the life that is less ordinary, our dream life. This usually means going against the grain and it is not always easy. I am sharing my experience, hoping it will help someone face their fear of the unknown. Until I joined the home schooling community, I had never encountered anyone who had/ is home schooling their child. I hadn’t met a Nigerian (or an African) home educator, so watch this space as I am one (a British Nigerian home educator) and I choose to share my experience with you.

If someone had told me that I would start a blog in 2018, I would have laughed and told them that Writing or English in general wasn’t my strong suit. Here I am facing my fears, knowing that I am not the best writer, but I do have lots to share. So why not? I say all this because sometimes we make statements like I can never, I will never… let’s just bear in mind that some parent’s have no option but to home school their children, they don’t say I can’t, but roll their sleeves up and ask, how are we going to do this?

 

Now that you have heard me venting, I hope you can add your two cents by commenting below. Let me know if you’ve ever been made to feel like you are failing your child in one way or another? Also, don’t forget to download my free ebook (http://ebook.floutlook.com/optin)  , it’s a quick read and might answers some of your questions about home education.

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    Chika Ukatu

    Well done Loveth, a big plunge and commitment but thumps up to you. Your children will experience a fulfilling education with one to one home schooling which one cannot get in a school environment due to the large numbers of children in a classroom setting with high teacher to student ratios. A child requiring that extra attention can be lost in this sort of environment and end up falling behind in their academic abilities.

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      Loveth Okoli

      Hi Chika, thanks for taking time to comment and I agree completely. This is why I encourage all parents to always support their children at home regardless of where or how they are getting educated.

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    Anthonia

    Wow Loveth, Am always very grateful and Inspired reading and talking with you.. I think I am one of the reasons You where inspired to start this blog. I never thought I will be able to seat patiently for some time educating our kids even if I really would love to do it.
    But just by listening to you talk and write about your Experience has really encourage me and thought me that.. I can do it.. I have always wanted to spend time teaching our kids…but the fear of the unknown was there.

    I can now say, Am very happy with the progress our kids has made in a very short time.. Am grateful to God for using you to reach out to me. I have so much patience in this area of educating that i never thought I have. But am still learning more..

    I just want to encourage everyone on this platform.. Don’t be scared of anything… the fear of the unknown always keep people back and kills dreams… Remember; what works for you, May never work for others and what works for others may never work for you… So be encourage to pursue your dreams and stand firm in it.

    Thanks so much Loveth

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      Loveth Okoli

      Hi Anthonia, I am happy that my blog encourages you to be more involve with your child’s education. This is why I write, to support, encourage and share my experiences and hope that someone finds it helpful/ useful. Thank you for your comment, you have encouraged me. keep doing what your doing and don’t forget, I am happy to answer you questions to the best of my ability.

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    Ebony laleye

    I love this piece of writing.
    You are right,when you do tell people you home school,they do a quick examination of them selves,lol.
    You are right,it does not mean you are asking everyone to do it.

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      Loveth Okoli

      Hi Ebony, I write to share my experiences not to make demand of anybody. All I am trying to do is to support parents as they try and get more involved in their child’s education. I am always learning how I can get better at this. Thanks for taking time to comment.

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