Discipline Is Not Old School – Yes, I Am That Mum
One of the problems that we face in today’s society is looking for instant gratification and not sticking something out for the long run. Our microwave lifestyles translate into other areas and we must be wary of that. I’ve heard the saying, “The way you do life in one area is the way you do life in all areas”.
Keep that behaviour in check
I encourage independent learning and creative thinking, not unruliness. Sometimes, I have to remind myself to be careful of what I write; no matter how careful I am, someone will always be offended. This is why I gave up being a people pleaser a long time ago.
Other people’s lack of ability to manage their children’s behaviour has sometimes negatively hurt other children or themselves. You have to keep your children in check. Yes, I said it! Except if your child has special needs or other difficulties.
Set clear boundaries
You need to set clear boundaries. I can’t jokingly accept my children saying shut up to me or calling their daddy silly. I remember when my children said “silly daddy” (they got it from Peppa Pig); they instantly got shut down.
In this life, children will be exposed to all kinds of things. They just have to understand what is acceptable and not, and the reasons why. Now when they watch their programmes, they always ask questions or make statements that lead to some sort of talk and explanation.
Encourage questions and dialogue
If we accept a child telling us shut-up jokingly, they feel they have our permission to use it whenever they please. Therefore, don’t start what you can’t finish. However, it’s not what you say to your children that has an impact, it’s the way you say it. Make sure to create an environment for open dialogue, and encourages questions.