Discipline Is Not Old School – Yes, I Am That Mum

One of the problems that we face in today’s society is looking for instant gratification and not sticking something out for the long run. Our microwave lifestyles translate into other areas and we must be wary of that. I’ve heard the saying, “The way you do life in one area is the way you do life in all areas”.

Keep that behaviour in check

I encourage independent learning and creative thinking, not unruliness. Sometimes, I have to remind myself to be careful of what I write; no matter how careful I am, someone will always be offended. This is why I gave up being a people pleaser a long time ago.

Other people’s lack of ability to manage their children’s behaviour has sometimes negatively hurt other children or themselves. You have to keep your children in check. Yes, I said it! Except if your child has special needs or other difficulties.

Set clear boundaries

You need to set clear boundaries. I can’t jokingly accept my children saying shut up to me or calling their daddy silly. I remember when my children said “silly daddy” (they got it from Peppa Pig); they instantly got shut down.

In this life, children will be exposed to all kinds of things. They just have to understand what is acceptable and not, and the reasons why. Now when they watch their programmes, they always ask questions or make statements that lead to some sort of talk and explanation.

Encourage questions and dialogue

If we accept a child telling us shut-up jokingly, they feel they have our permission to use it whenever they please. Therefore, don’t start what you can’t finish. However, it’s not what you say to your children that has an impact, it’s the way you say it. Make sure to create an environment for open dialogue, and encourages questions.

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    Ebony laleye

    This is so good, I remembered when my son,also called,his dad silly daddy
    We also shut that statement down. And explained the reason to him.

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      Loveth Okoli

      It is vital that we have a good and open communication with our children.

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    Gladys

    I love and enjoy your views on keeping boundaries and behaviour in check.
    I have come to realise that kids are products of their homes. Without making excuses, Unruly kids – behaviours are cry for help and intervention
    I understand the different circumstances -kids with special needs and disability.
    Some parents themselves need parental intervention. The saying “you are a product of your childhood ‘ .
    As an older mum, I have a friendship approach to my kids and ensuring boundaries are maintained . I do not tolerate unruly behaviour.
    I am afraid that Society influence, technology (pepper pig influence on your kids ) , confusion on what is right for a child is our Morden world nightmare.

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      Loveth Okoli

      I Understand that parents are always trying to do their best for their children and each parenting style is unique. I agree that kids being unruly can be a cry for help, this blog was me expressing that discipline done correctly would prevent having unruly children. Thanks for reading this blog and for your contribution, I appreciate different perspectives.

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